Fluidity on Hook-Up Apps

Fluidity on Hook-Up Apps


Written by Zachary Zane

When my boyfriend and I were looking for a third, we had one criterion: a fat, juicy ass. And boy, did we find him. He was 6’5’’ with a booty so big, I had to spread apart his cheeks with both hands to fuck him. When we had sex, I thought I had died and gone to heaven. I was in pure bliss. 

After our threesome, we decided to hang out a bit. He seemed chill enough, and I definitely wanted this to be more than a one-time thing, so we moved to the living room, opened up a couple of beers, and got to know one another. 

It turned out he had a girlfriend—not DL, not cheating. She knew he was bi and didn’t just accept his sexuality but got turned on by it. After a hookup, he goes home to her, tells her about the fuck, and she gets off hearing about all the gay sex he had. 

Jordan (not his real name), wasn’t the first guy I’d fuck from Sniffies who had a girlfriend, but he may have been the first guy who told his girlfriend about it. He may have been the first one who wasn’t hiding his (bi)sexuality.

But I don’t think he’ll be the last. We’re starting to see more and more guys embrace being bisexual, pansexual, sexually fluid, heteroflexible, homoflexible, ambisexual, polysexual, or any other word you want to use. YouGov did a study in 2015 that revealed that 20% of young Americans identify as something other than completely heterosexual. When they repeated the study in 2018, that number was up to 25%.

We’re also starting to see more gay men realize that they’re bisexual/fluid. I write Sexplain It, the sex and relationship column at Men’s Health, and I have started to get more questions from gay men who are now realizing that they are, in fact, bisexual. The thing is, a decade ago, there was little, male bisexual visibility, and it wasn’t accepted. So guys who were more effeminate or tended to sleep with more men than women just assumed (and said) that they were gay. 


Now, however, they realize bisexuality is a valid sexual orientation, and they want to explore sexually with women. However, they have no idea how because they’ve been so enmeshed in the gay world. They also worry about what their gay friends will think and fear being judged. Still, these men are more open to the idea of playing with women. Similarly, “straight” guys are also more open to playing with guys. (No homo. JK, a little homo.)

As a bisexual man myself, I’m living for the burgeoning era of sexual fluidity. I love the way that hookup apps like Sniffies allow fluid/bi guys to explore in a safe, shame-free way. 

I love seeing all the guys who have girlfriends, too. You better believe I asked Jordan to see pics of his GF. She, too, had an ample ass. So, we now have a bisexual threesome planned for next week. I can’t wait to be in the middle of that daisy chain—the meat in that sandwich. 

Thank ya, Sniffies, for all the bi boys.  

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