Maybe you’ve long fantasized about having a threesome with your partner—perhaps you’ve even set up a more permanent throuple. But how often have you fantasized about watching someone plow your partner for hours while you’re powerless, and forced to watch like the weak beta you truly are? If thinking about that scenario gave you a semi, chances are you’re harboring a nascent cuckolding kink.
The term “cuckold” dates back hundreds of years—turns out cheating on your partner is as old as time itself—and has roots in the word cuckoo, as in the bird that places its eggs in another nest for another bird to care for. Now, it refers to the partner of an unfaithful person, and the popular kink involving watching your partner have sex with someone else. It’s a popular kink which some studies say can actually be beneficial for a relationship.
To be clear, cuckolding is not quite the same as whoring out your partner—though we can wholeheartedly endorse both. Setting up a pump and dump and watching guy after guy unload into your partner is about the act of domination; forcing him (with advance consent, obviously) to be whored out, making him a complete slut, watching him be used.
In a cuckolding setup, the power dynamic is reversed. Suddenly the cuck is forced to watch as another man gives his partner the pleasure he couldn’t. Cuckolding is a manifestation of a humiliation kink wherein a cuck sees someone else, known as a bull, perform the most degrading act possible: sleeping with your partner, and forcing you to watch as they cheat on you. In essence, it’s not so different from someone who wants you to laugh and tell them their cock is tiny, or even a CMNM scenario.
There is an entire spectrum of experiences within the cuckolding kink to explore. It can start with dirty talk, for example—laying out the fantasy of being forced to watch your partner be with an alpha bull that gives them more pleasure than you ever could. That might evolve into a cuckolding experience, which may in turn evolve into a deep and textured role play. Maybe you arrange to arrive home only to find your partner and a stranger in the bedroom where you get tied up and forced to watch them go at it. Some cuckolding couples take things beyond the bedroom, allowing the bull to move in (at least temporarily), living in your house, eating your food, and fucking your partner—the ultimate loss of power.
If you’re looking to explore your own budding cuckolding kink, the first step is to talk it through with your partner. Make sure they’re comfortable with your proposed dynamic, set up some ground rules for safety (like using PrEP, getting tested, and establishing safe words), and hop onto the Sniffies map to find your perfect bull.
