Some couples practice “strict” monogamy, while other couples pick up tricks, attend sex parties, and visit cruising spots together. Ain’t love grand? In this episode, Gabe and Chris talk to a couple who cruise and throw sex parties together, about how they make it work, deal with jealousy, and the pros and cons of pursuing partners in pairs! Plus: we stop by Brooklyn’s hottest new queer nightspot Animal to hear stories both hot and horrific about hooking up with couples.
A Note From the Director, Adam Baran
Of all the proposed topics of the season, this week’s episode “Couples Who Cruise Together” was the farthest from my own lived experience. I have had very few real boyfriends in my life, and part of the reason was that I became convinced that I couldn’t be monogamous. I let those beliefs fester and didn’t really date.
Things have changed over time, and now many couples have some kind of non-monogamy arrangement. There’s “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” where both partners aren’t monogamous, but don’t tell the other person about it. Some couples might decide that sex with other people is okay only when they’re traveling. Other couples love to cruise together, go to sex parties together, and pick up thirds, fourths, or fifths. Like any sexual habit or practice, there’s going to be positives and negatives to account for. We’re all programmed by traditional straight relationship culture from birth, so it can be hard to handle the seemingly inevitable feelings of jealousy.
Soon after we started looking for couples to talk to about their experience, we zeroed in on Leo and Jordan, the sexy boys behind the New York-based parties JXXL and Come For Daddy. As a couple who not only have sex with other partners, but throw sex parties together, Leo and Jordan have a unique perspective to offer.
Our series editor, Austin, joined Chris and Gabe to shoot a field interview segment at Animal, the new queer bar and dance space in North Brooklyn. The owner Jim was nice enough to let us come take over the back porch to interview couples who cruise together and the single guys who cruise for them about their best and worst threesome tales.
What I thought might be an episode I wouldn’t have much experience to draw from ended up pushing me to interrogate my own thoughts about getting into a relationship. I think mmmmmaybe I might be ready to dip back into the scene. We’ll see… Enjoy the Episode!
Follow the hosts:
Gabe Gonzalez
Chris Patterson-Rosso
Guests featured in this episode:
Leo and Jordan / JXXL
