You know what’s better than fucking around with one person? Fucking around with a bunch of people. If you’ve browsed the Sniffies map, you’ve almost definitely seen the orange icons that indicate groups—bukkakes, orgies, pump and dumps, and jerk sessions—pop up. There’s perhaps no one more skilled at the group sex game than Jonah Wheeler. Maybe you remember him from Season 1 of Cruising Confessions when he took 27 loads in a couple hours?

After years of cumdumping, taking loads, and generally whoring around Jonah is a group sex aficionado. “I was very much built for group sex,” he says. “When I first slipped into it in college, I was like ‘this is where I belong.’” 

Jonah is brimming with advice to optimize your group sex experience (keep the timing tight on your cum dumps, otherwise you’ll spend most of your time waiting on your knees, for instance). If it’s your first time experimenting with group sex, he says, the most important thing to know is that it’s fine to go at your own speed. As for the rest of the complexities of group sex, he’s got five rules that should keep you in good standing.

Thou Shalt Be Prepared

“Arrive in the state that you want to be,” Jonah advises, “because there's not typically enough resources for everybody to do their preparations.” That means douched, shaved, hydrated, horny, and perhaps most important, on time. Often hosts will ask you to be punctual so that everybody can get into things at the same pace. If you’re late you might find it a bit harder to connect with the group. 

Being prepared also means making sure you have everything set up ahead of time. If you’re planning a face-down-ass-up situation, for example, you might want to plan to have someone there to facilitate. “A chaperon is ideal,” Jonah says. They can manage the door, bring you water between loads, and make sure no one is hanging around for too long.

Thy Host Shall Provide the Supplies

Your host will make sure there’s lube enough for everyone. But, as Jonah explains, it might be helpful to bring your own mini bottle anyways. You can never have enough lube at a sex party. “When you're in the moment, you don't want to have to go track down lube, you just pull it out and grab it for what you need,” he says.

Thou Shalt Use Your Eyes

“Eye contact is a really big thing in a group sex environment,” Jonah says.  Catching someone’s eye while you’re getting fucked might mean I want you to fuck me next, or it might mean stick your cock in my mouth while I’m getting fucked. It’s an invitation. Maintaining eye contact can mean you want to hook up with someone, that you appreciate the work they’re putting in, or that you’re simply connecting with them in that moment.

Thou Shalt Communicate

Obviously you don’t want to start a full-blown conversation during an orgy, but it’s good to make your desires known. “When in doubt,” Jonah says, “ask people things, or tell people what you're doing or how you're feeling.” Group sex often relies on a lot of non-verbal consent and while eye contact is the main method of communication, if you’re not sure you’re understanding or being understood, you should speak up. “We cannot be telepathic communicators about everything,” Jonah says.

Thou Shalt Take Breaks

It’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon. Give yourself a moment to sink into the experience. Take a breather when you need to—why not take a lap and see if there are any new friends to be made? A break is a moment to make sure you’re still enjoying yourself. If you’re really a pro—take a water break, Jonah says. “In addition to just being hydrated, when you stop for water, you also breathe for a little bit you check in on your body,” he says. “You don't realize how hard you're going until you stop for a moment.”