You either get chastity play or you don't. Some people couldn’t possibly fathom how you derive pleasure from locking your cock up in a cage. Others, like 40-year-old Mauricio, see caging as transformative. In fact, he credits chastity as “the most significant part of his sexual identity.”
For those uninitiated, a chastity fetish centers on the appeal of restricting sexual access, orgasm, and control over one’s own genitals. The cock cage serves as the physical mechanism to enforce that restriction.
Mauricio, who’s been wearing a cage for over 100 days, likes that chastity removes his cock from the equation and redirects all pleasure to both of his holes. “There’s no ambiguity when it comes to my likes or dislikes when there is clarity of my role,” he explains. “As soon as a man sees that I’m caged, he knows I’m there for his cock.”
But fitting a cage can be a challenge. Mauricio’s first cage caused chaffing, irritation, and sometimes even pain—that meant he couldn’t stay caged for long. “The plastic was so uncomfortable that I could only wear them briefly or for play,” he says ruefully.
“Having the right fit is everything when it comes to chastity,” a representative at KINK3D, a Oakland-based cage company says. “It’s the difference between something that might become part of your daily outfit, and something that ends up as an expensive paperweight.”
A cage that is too long will create a gap in the head area between the tip of the penis and the bars of the cage. This makes it harder to line up to pee, and means your cage will be bulkier under your pants than it needs to be—a downside unless you’re hoping your cageprint will be a part of your cruising experience. A cage that is too short or too narrow, on the other hand, can lead to pressure and bulging, making it uncomfortable to wear.
To avoid the painful experience of an ill-fitting cage, you’ll have to get to know the anatomy of a cock cage. There are two main components to most cock cages: the base ring and the cage that fits around your cock. The perfect cage should be snug to your cock, but not so tight that it’s actively squeezing. The ring holds the device against your body and traps the balls so they don’t escape, but should fit without pain or discomfort.“
There’s not necessarily a ‘perfect fit’ for everyone,” KINK3D’s rep says. “Chastity sizing is about tradeoffs. If you feel like you’re in-between sizes, you can opt for the smaller sized ring for more security or the larger ring for more comfort.”
How to Fit Your Cock Cage
To measure for the cage, you’ll be asked to provide your “normal smallest flaccid/soft length” and whether you’re circumcised or not. You’ll measure along the top side of the penis from the base (without pushing into the pubic bone—no cheating here, Cruisers) to the tip of the head (not the foreskin). You should measure six or seven times over the course of the day, to make sure .
According to KINK3D, there’s no universal way to measure or fit the base ring, and any attempts made to measure often result in ill-fitting devices. Instead, you should go by cock rings you’ve used in the past. You’ll know a base ring is too tight if you feel it pinch or chafe, or if it starts to cut off circulation in any way.
If you’re a first-timer, and not sure about sizing or measuring, try purchasing inexpensive options from sites like AliExpress or eBay to see which sizes fit before investing in a better quality product that’ll cost you more.
After you’re fit for your cage and it finally arrives you’ve got one more hurdle ahead of you: getting it on. Start by putting one of your balls through the ring, then the other, and finally the penis. You’re going to have to do some pushing, pulling, negotiating, and finagling. Don’t give up—you’ll get the hang of it. The ring should stay in place on its own, and not slide down too easily. Once the ring is on your junk, you can lock the cage.
Ultimately, finding the right fit is less about perfection and more about experimentation and comfort. Once you land on a cage that feels right, everything else will lock in place.